The Anatomy of An Amicable Divorce

As you vowed your love to each other, it never crossed your mind that it will end up in divorce. But if it’s the way it’s going, then you can only hope to make it as amicable and sound as possible.

In Hong Kong alone, the number of married couples who have divorced from1991 to 2013 has increased fourfold, from 6,295 to 22,271. Attributing the phenomenon to the highly tense lifestyles and ever-changing values, along with other reasons.

Inevitably, people change. While some find ways to do so and still make it work, there are the unfortunate ones who just simply can’t. Instead of dragging the family into it, it is best to come to a joint decision of getting a divorce for the betterment of everyone—especially the children.

Haldanes.com dissects the anatomy of an amicable divorce and how you can achieve it.

Adult-Rated

An amicable divorce is one that is discussed by two consenting and responsible adults. As parents, it is important to keep your matters to each other and not involve children in your issues and problems. It shows that couples with more children have a relatively longer average length of marriage as opposed to those who have none.

While your kids may be good reasons to stay together, it may only affect them negatively. Keep your divorce matters between you and your spouse and keep your family intact.

Acceptance

Instead of holding on to “what-could-have-beens,” focusing and accepting the reality of the situation will lead you to make responsible decisions.

Too often do pride and wishful thinking get the best of our minds that we let it interfere with our better judgment and let selfish needs and desires control us. Your divorce is not about you—it’s about both of you and how your family can function better.

Accepting what your marriage has come to will set you both and your family on the right path, one that is geared positively with good intentions and not grudges.

Cooperation

It may be confusing and complicated to even think about becoming parents to your children after a divorce. An amicable divorce, however, is able to do this.

Co-parenting is an agreement both parties make in an effort to make it work. It works through open communication and is fuelled by love for the children and hopes of giving them the best care.

Without children, on the other hand, it is also important to come to an agreement where both parties benefit. Despite the losses and sacrifices, both of you must be willing to do the same and work with each other to get the best outcome.

Divorce need not be a bad story to tell; it is, after all, for the betterment of everyone. Model your divorce in an amicable one and reduce the damage for you and your children.